Do's and Don't for the first date (ladies)

As promised here is the list for the ladies:

1. Do make an effort on your appearance when you meet for the first time. You might think you’re pretty fly and therefore don’t really need to try hard but trust me you do. In this day and age where metro sexual men are reigning you can’t afford to slip up on the very basic things. There is way too much competition out there so don’t think you’re irreplaceable.

Don’t get drunk on the first date! It’s ok to have the occasional tipple here and there but whatever you do don’t down more alcohol than you can handle and start slurring your words. We all know that when intoxicated there is a higher tendency to behave embarrassingly and the worse part is that you may not even remember raising your top and flashing the taxi driver at the end of the date.


2. Do pay him compliments. Don’t be fooled by the hard exterior some men portray because they do feel good when women pay them compliments. Let’s face it; it strokes the ego a little bit. Trust me he will remember the compliment you paid him and that will put you in his good books.

Don’t be too much of a princess. Just because he didn’t get you flowers on your first date or take you to that really expensive restaurant you had your eyes on doesn’t mean that you should throw a wobbly and sulk all day. Lighten up, he can only do things within his means and besides some men need a little bit of positive guidance. Expecting too much from him on the first date (in fact in general) will only leave you open to disappointment and make him feel like you are high maintenance.


3. Do pay attention to him when he’s speaking. Do not let your mind drift off to the ‘Desperate Housewives’ you had to record because you went on the date. Ok so he’s not as interesting as you thought he would be but at least be courteous and respect the fact that he is spending his time with you.

Don’t have sex with him on your first date. Unless you don’t mind it if he starts seeing you as ‘cheap' or ‘easy to get’ and lose interest then don’t do it. Yes, there are couples who are still going strong after they hit the sack on the first day but the chances of securing a successful relationship after being this intimate on date one are very slim. Chances are he’ll lose interest after he’s slept with you and you would lose the opportunity to get to know who he really is.


4. Do sound interesting. Telling him about the other skills will show him you have more depth. Note - This does not include your unrivalled ability to find the best deals in the shops (most men would actually see it as a hindrance given their allergy to shopping). He’s going to start fearing for his pockets because he will think he has to take you shopping all the time to keep you happy.

Don’t become a stalker. So the date is over and you feel like you’ve been taken to cloud nine and back, don’t make the mistake of thinking that this is confirmation you are now a firm item. You need to allow him to follow things up just to make sure he is interested. Don’t ring his phone non-stop trying to get a second date and if he doesn’t answer start using your friend’s phone to call him so he doesn’t recognize the number. Even worse, start calling him from ‘anonymous’ numbers. Get a grip!! If he is really into you he’ll call you.


There you have it, my full list of do's and dont's for the first date. This is a topic that everyone can relate to because we have all been on dates. Thanks for dropping by. Until next time....